Several years ago, I had the opportunity to listen to someone share what he learned about raising children. He asked us if we were making consistent deposits investing into our kids. If we were not doing so, there would be times when we would have to make a withdrawal. If were not investing into them, then we would be putting ourselves into a potential position for it to go south. This would eventually leave having a relationship with our child go bankrupt.

In reality I did not do as good as I could have, but I am committed to love them by my words and through my actions. The words: “love covers a multitude of sins” is so encouraging and hopeful. I do not want to sound like a lecturer or a know it all, but want to share a few ideas that could help us all be better investors in our relationship with our children and potentially, others.

1. If we have hurt someone, own it and apologize, even if you think they don’t deserve it.

2. Expect the best in someone; be willing to give grace even when you might not want to.

3. Ask them what makes them feel appreciated, valued, respected and make a mental or physical note somewhere to start acting upon their desires.

4. Ask them if there is anything you can do to help them or if they need a listening ear. BUT don’t give your opinion unless they ask for it. Maybe say, “Would you like my thoughts on this?” They may say no but DO NOT let their answer become the relationship or result in any passive aggressiveness.

5. Let them know you love them and do it often. It could be a phone call, having coffee with them, a letter, a text, or a unique gift. You may need to set yourself a reminder to periodically do the above if that helps you remember.

Life is flying by us and we can’t change our past, but we can make rudder adjustments that could change our future relationships. Who can we make an investment into today?

With you and for you.